Every now and then we all need a pick me up. Choose one and repeat it frequently
“Took me 26 years to find my path…”
For those of you who don’t recognize the lyric it’s from a Jay-Z + Kanye West song called “New Day.” This is by far one of my favorite songs on the Watch The Throne album, and at 26 I’m feelin’ like “Damn Jay, me too.”
As a blogger staying in “the know” and having perfect photos can become overwhelming. Almost every time I look at a posted photo I feel there’s something that could be better. I pick and criticize, and most times end up deleting photos that I don’t think look “blogger official”.
The pressure to look like everyone else is daunting , and the fact that I don’t is pointed out more often than I’d like to admit. Yes, I’ve gained some weight over the years. Yes, I can be super lazy when it comes to my hair. Yes, I’m self-conscious about my stretch marks + my awful editing skills. But I’ve realized that these things are who I am, right here, in this moment. So, I’ve decided that I can make the choice to feel ashamed and hide OR I can live right now and be happy.
If, like me, you struggle with self-doubt you’re probably reading this like “ok girl, that’s way easier said than done.” But, what if saying it was all you had to do? It took some time, but writing this today, in a much clearer space, I see that my thoughts truly shape my reality.
Over these past few months I’ve seen such a shift in the way I present and feel about myself. I can see the bigger picture in my times of stress. I know that where I am is where I should be. What’s different? My mantras.
1. “Stay away from they” DJ Khaled
Many people discredit DJ Khaled and his social media antics, but this statement has stuck with me. I laugh sometimes saying it because it sounds silly, but it’s just so damn true. “They” are not looking out for you. “They” have their own agenda that is their priority over everything. If you get hurt, offended, lose some edges, etc. in the midst of them doing their thing- they don’t care. Be yourself, be fine with it, and keep it movin’.
2. “Output is a result of input”
If you work hard, stay passionate, and give it your all, your day will come! It may not be exactly when you need or want it, but it’s coming. I firmly believe that you get out what you put in.
3. “Be present, be powerful”
This one I probably say the most. There have been so many situations (especially with work) where I can’t help being there and simply going through the motions. If it’s not what and how I want I don’t care, and you can tell through my actions + body language. This speaks to all of that. 1. Be there- in mind and in body. If you show up to work (or wherever) really be there. You never know what you can learn from a situation. If you’re not present you’ll miss it. 2. Be powerful- do your best. Even if you don’t like what you’re doing, be a beast at it. Be so good people would be shocked to hear that you don’t like it.
4. “You are enough”
This is true in every aspect of your life. You cannot be anyone but yourself and that is enough. Kim K was made to be Kim K. That is her job, her calling, whatever. Stop comparing yourself to other people and appreciate who you are and the things you can do.
5. “It’s all good”
“It’s all good” is my deep breath when I feel like I’m suffocating. Simple as that. Don’t hold on to stuff and let it become a headache. Bad things will happen. MOVE ON. People will treat you shitty. Realize it, and MOVE ON. Take life’s events at face value and don’t internalize everything because that’s when we start going crazy.
So to all of my self-conscious sistas out there collect your mantras and live the life you deserve. These 5 things have really changed my thought process + saved me from several anxiety attacks. I hope they help you too.
Did I miss your mantra? Leave it below.