Sometimes you need a little help taking care of your natural hair
Since transitioning I’ve spent a significant amount of time learning about my hair. Once I started blogging I really felt that it was important for me to be well versed in hair and how my hair reacts to things the way it does. For a long time during my journey, I refused to go to a stylist. I would clip my own ends and rely on YouTube and blogs to help me with styling.
About a year in, once I had fully committed, when my TWA was thriving I let a friend of mind who was in beauty school cut the last of my processed ends. I was nervous because there was still quite a few and I felt like what little length I had would be gone again. Also, she was white so I wasn’t sure what she was going to be able to do with my fro. To my surprise, she hooked me up. All of my straight ends were gone and my baby fro had a great shape to it. I definitely couldn’t have done that myself.
Once I became self-employed one of my first clients was a beautician. She is a fabulous woman who has been a great friend and mentor to me. When we first began our work relationship a lot of my service was provided on trade. This really changed my natural game tremendously. Once she began working with my hair I quickly realized that she had simply been maintaining and that she had what I needed for growth.
Learning how to care for your natural hair on your own is very important, but there are some things that only an educated professional can either teach you or help you with. Bloggers/Vloggers are fantastic when it comes to learning about new products and inspiration for trendy styles, but healthy hair isn’t always at the forefront of the conversation.
During our first session, one of the first things she said when washing my hair was “you haven’t had your ends clipped in a long time, hun?” This was so true. I watched so many videos and couldn’t get a solid answer on how often they should be cut so I just neglected it all together. The second thing I never knew anything about was steam.
The second thing I was put on to at the salon was the steamer. I had heard people talk about it and saw at home version that you could buy but how often should you use it? Do you put products on your hair first? How long should you stay under? There were so many questions that came with this machine and she answered them all for me.
After the steam we hit the chair for a trim and straighten. Yal, when I tell you my hair has never been this straight in my whole entire life I mean I was in the mirror shaking it for 45 minutes. The thing that was really awesome about it was that she used only ONE product and straightened my hair with a barrel brush and a blow dryer. It lasted way longer than any straighten I had ever done with a flat iron.
I have also gone to my client for color treatments. This is not the first time my hair has been colored. Before going natural I had been almost every color. I would dye it myself at home and one time I even soaked my hair in kool-aid to go full on red. It was pure misery for my hair. It was literally fried, dyed, and laid to the side. Getting rid of all of my processed hair made me scared to get color put in. I thought I was going to lose my curls, my health, and honestly some of my hair. It’s happened before.
Getting my hair colored by a professional was a way better experience. She knew about natural hair and the proper steps needed for preserving it through this process. The colors were vibrant and beautiful and my hair is still soft and healthy. I have not had any trouble with it since the process.
I highly recommend that anyone who can go to a stylist at least once a month to show their natural hair some real love. I totally understand the connection that comes with nursing your hair to a new and healthy state, but sometimes you need a little help with getting it to reach its full potential. It’s also a great way to help you learn about best practice for taking care of your hair in between visits.