Loving yourself isn’t the easiest thing to do.
But, it’s the only way to live life.
Life lessons come at you fast. Personally, I spend too much time trying to perfectly plan the future. Creating brilliant ideas and dreams for the world I hope to live in, where I want to be in 5 years or how the future will unfold. You can often find me checking my planner for upcoming scheduled tasks, or stressing over deadlines weeks prior to their arrival. Why? It won’t make it come any faster or slower, I still have to do the prep work before it arrives.
It is seldom that I think solely about my day, pushing aside all else to concentrate on that moment. That one moment during the day to be cherished and celebrated. The work-life balance isn’t easy for me. The joy I have for my career supersedes other things in my life quite a bit. It’s a blessing to live and work in your passion. Working full-time and pouring my extra energy into Tiff + Coco truly fulfills my purpose. But, it’s draining. Constantly staying plugged in, be it via a social platform or emails, can blind you if you’re not careful. It becomes easy to miss one phone call with your best friend, then two, then seven. The laughs of loved ones, the chatter of old friends – you slowly begin to forsake it all for a presence in a digital world.
Over the past few months, I’ve been really intentional about my social media usage. No more endless scrolling in bed, or diving into the depths of a former friend’s social media history. Living outside of a constant stream of likes and comments, you start truly living. In the small things, you notice moments that make your heart sing. You start to hear the laughter of your friends, the lyrics of your youth and the harmony of your life. In addition, there’s a powerful confidence that manifests within. Most noteworthy, you learn so much by removing yourself from the digital world to live in the real one.
Live in your truth. Everyone says it but what does that mean? What is it you want from life? Who are you? Finding your truth means finding yourself, flaws and all, and embracing it. It means understanding your purpose in this world. The purpose you want, not what others believe your purpose to be. Tons of people will try to label you, put you in a box and ship you down the path they believe is best. Only you know what you want and who you want to be; don’t let people dictate your life. Find it for yourself.
Furthermore, the life you want is rarely handed to you. If you don’t know what you want in life, how will you build it? How will you fight for it? We must fight ’til death for the life and truth we believe in. Life is harder than I can imagine for most, but I believe in the fight. Fight the fight of your life – it’s all you have. Fight, fight, fight.
And, smile. Smile all the time. I know RBF and that’s not what I’m referring to. Be happy in your life, show how happy you are being around those you love. Embrace your happiness. Happiness is earned and you deserve it. When you’re constantly overwhelmed by social media noise, you forget or miss the important moments. Put your phone down, look up into the world, and take what you want from it.
What are the moments you live for?
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